I know the homeschool nay-sayers will think I’m making this up, but it is not uncommon for me to hear from kids who want to be homeschooled but don’t know how to broach the topic with their parents. If that’s you, try these tips.
Talk to your parents.
Every parent is different, so I can’t speak for all of us, but I’d say that most parents want to know what’s going on with their kids. Talk to them. Your parents may have no idea you’d like to be homeschooled or maybe you’ve mentioned it before, but they didn’t realize you were serious. Start the dialogue.
Wait until a time when they can give you their full attention. Teens, particularly, like to talk about important topics late at night. I’ll speak to my kids anytime they need to talk about something that’s weighing on their minds, but I think it’d be awesome if they’d approach me when I’m still coherent.
Some good times to talk may include:
- In the car when you’re running errands together
- At the dinner table
- On a parent-kid date night
Sometimes my kids find it easier to broach an awkward topic when we’re not face-to-face, so you might consider sending your parents a text or a Facebook message or leaving them a note letting them know that you’d like to talk or even giving them a little heads-up about the topic.
Let them know why you want to be homeschooled.
Homeschooling is not a decision to be made lightly or on a whim. Being solely responsible for your child’s education puts a lot of pressure on parents. If you really want to be homeschooled, your parents will likely want to know why. If it’s just so you can sleep later or stay in your PJs all day, that’s probably not going to fly. Be open with them about what’s on your mind.
- Are you being bullied?
- Are you struggling academically or not being challenged?
- Would you like more control over your education?
- Would you like the opportunity to study something specific that isn’t offered at school?
- Is there a problem with a particular teacher?
- Are you being pressured about alcohol, drugs, or sex?
I know some of those topics can be difficult to talk with your parents about, but the vast majority of parents really want to know when things like that are going on. They’ll want to work with you to determine the right solution, even if it’s not homeschooling.
Find out what their objections are.
Many parents probably aren’t going to immediately jump on board with homeschooling. Find out what their objections are. Some parents don’t feel qualified to teach their kids. Others worry that their kids are going to miss out on some of the rites of passage of growing up in a traditional school setting.
Some worry that they won’t be able to homeschool because they work outside the home or are single parents. They may think they have to teach everything and come up with all the lesson plans. They might worry about teaching subjects that were difficult for them in school.
You can find solutions to most common homeschool objections. There are online or scripted curriculum options. There are co-ops , online classes, and tutors. You may be a very motivated student who can direct the majority of your own learning.
If you can find out what your parents’ objections to homeschooling are, perhaps you can brainstorm to overcome them or work out a solution with which everyone is comfortable.
If you want to be homeschooled, but don’t know how to talk to your parents about it and I haven’t addressed your concerns, leave them in the comments. I’d be happy to try to help.
This post is linked to the Hip Homeschool Hop.