One big key to weight-loss success that a lot of people overlook is knowing how and when to ask for help…and, of course, actually doing it. Sometimes it can be hard to know what you need, so you might need to watch for triggers.
Way back when, when I was on Weight Watchers, one of the leaders said she always had another family member help clean up the kitchen after meals. Once the leftovers were put away and uneaten food scraped off plates into the garbage, she could handle the rest. However, nibbling as she put away the leftovers was a trigger for her.
Just last week, I asked Brian on Thursday night to ask me on Friday if I’d worked out. I’ve learned that it can be too much temptation for me to skip a Thursday or Friday workout when I’ve been consistent the first part of the week. Both of those days, however, are important if I’m to reach my weight loss goals and I knew that I would be much more likely to work out if I knew that someone was going to hold me accountable.
It worked! I worked out every day last week and even got in some bonus activity on Saturday when we rode bikes for about twelve miles.
Another thing I know I need is having people respect my food choices. I don’t need someone acting as my personal diet police – that just irritates me. I am a grown woman and, as such, am perfectly capable of making my own decisions. If I have chosen to eat dessert, you can just assume that I have planned for the indulgence.
The flip side of that coin, though, is respecting my decision when I tell you that I don’t want dessert or I only want a spoonful. It’s not helpful having someone say things like, “Oh, it doesn’t hurt to have a treat every now and then,” or “Is that all you’re going to eat?” Again, I am usually making a decision based on what I’ve already eaten that day, what I will be eating, or what my activity level has been. I know what I’m doing, but I’m not always above peer pressure or guilt trips.
I encourage you to really consider what your needs are with regards to the support of friends and family. Once you’ve pinpointed some areas, talk to your loved ones about your needs. It’s often helpful to talk to them before the situation presents itself so that your request doesn’t come across as an accusation and so that the guidelines are in place before the situation presents itself.
What are some things you’ve asked – or need to ask – family and friends to do to help you reach your weight-loss goals?