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Last night my husband and oldest daughter took my van to get me some gas. While they were out, Brianna, who had some birthday money burning a hole in her pocket, bought everyone a Frosty.
Now, normally, I’d have been pretty excited about a Frosty. It’s a rare treat and not too horrible as far as occasional treats go (300 calories for a small), but yesterday I posted about my plans for a 12-Week Sprint to the Finish and, in a burst of excitement, I’d gone ahead and gotten started.
It had been a pretty high-calorie burn day, but I also knew I was probably at my max for calories consumed. Still, you can’t just let a sweet gesture or a sweet treat go to waste, right?
So, I started eating it.
About halfway through I was feeling a little full…and a little guilty. It was about that time that Brian, who had already inhaled his Frosty, said, “Are you about ready to give me the rest of that?”
And, he took it out of my hand.
“No,” I said, reaching for it.
He looked at me. I looked at him…and the Frosty. Then, knowing that I didn’t need any more to feel satisfied – and I certainly didn’t need any more to feel guilty – I took one last tasty bite and gave it to him.
Then, Brian gave it to Josh because he didn’t really want it either. He just knew that I had worked too hard to give in to a whole Frosty. A 150-calorie treat was plenty and no more than I would have eaten with any other snack (I typically have a snack of some sort each evening).
A lot of people might have been annoyed, but that’s exactly the kind of support I need – a husband who loves me enough to let little indulgences slide, but also enough to not ever want me going back to where I was and enough to want me to feel the sense of accomplishment that comes from reaching my goals.
Do you have a good support system in place to help you reach your goals in a positive and encouraging way?
Kris Bales is a newly-retired homeschool mom and the quirky, Christ-following, painfully honest founder (and former owner) of Weird, Unsocialized Homeschoolers. She has a pretty serious addiction to sweet tea and Words with Friends. Kris and her husband of over 30 years are parents to three amazing homeschool grads. They share their home with three dogs, two cats, a ball python, a bearded dragon, and seven birds.
Yes, my support system is great! It's traditional for us to go out to Chik-fil-a after Tre's music recitals. Each of the guys got their 700 plus calorie shakes AND an order of waffle fries. They didn't mind a bit traveling down the road to get my favorite 150 calorie sweet treat: a McDonald's ice cream cone.
What a fabulous, fabulous hubby! Â My husband is usually the first to say "You have had a rough day, do you want me to go get you a giant blizzard with lots of chocolate?" Â
What a great guy! My husband doesn't like to do that because he feels like he's nagging ~ LOL ~ even though I've asked him to! My son (age 13) did tell me a few days ago that he was proud of me for sticking with it. I just about cried. 🙂
I wish I had a few friends who were on the same journey. I have a couple who say they are, but when I try to talk to them about what I'm doing and what I need to do (accountability), it just ends up being an excuse session for why they can't put in the effort. It saddens me, actually, and it ends up making me feel bad. So I just comment on your blog and do it on my own!
Wow that was very tactful of him. He didn't want you to feel you let your daughter down so he gave you a way out.Â
Brian somehow has a way of doing something like that without it feeling like he's nagging. Most of the time. 😉 I know what a great feeling that it to have your kids tell you that they're proud of you. That's part of what keeps me going.
Hey, I'm happy to be your support system. I have found that having come this far on my journey I have very little patience with excuses. I should have since I made them for so many years, but knowing that it absolutely can be done if you just do it, I really struggle with patiently listening to excuses.
Yeah, he's pretty cool like that.
You're probably nicer than I am to begin with. LOL. I have never been a patient person. I do understand obstacles ~ I have them too! ~ but at some point you just have to find a way to move them or go around them. Complaining is not my style.
A supportive husband is such an encouragement! Well done handing off the half finished frosty! Just stopping by your blog and really enjoy it. As a support system, myself and two other ladies have begun a weigh-in/accountabliity blog. Hope you can stop by! We have linked back to this blog in our post today! Great work! https://tradingweightforpeacetogether.blogspot.com/2011/05/weigh-in-day.html
I stopped by your blog — what an incredible weight-loss you've had! I know it feels great to be more than halfway through your journey. Keep up the great work! And, thanks for linking back. I've got to get my weigh-in posted today…I was too tired to even think about it last night.