It’s frustrating when a kid refuses to do something, but Heather has learned four vital questions to ask herself to get to the root of what’s going on when her kids refuse.
I signed my oldest son (who is 9) up for a science club I thought he’d enjoy. But, when I told him about it, he said, “No, I don’t want to.”
Now, before you judge us as permissive parents, we’re pretty consistent with our rules and expectations. We’re not perfect, but we know the importance of following through once we’ve told our kids to do something.
The reality, however, is that our kids are growing and learning. And, it seems that “NO!” is one of the first words they learn. They use the word because it gives them power and autonomy. They also use it – and this is huge – because they often don’t have the words to express themselves.
To understand what’s really going on, there are four questions you need to ask when your kid refuses. [Read more…]