Academics usually take the focus of preparation for life after high school, but the teen years are an excellent time for practicing other necessary life skills. While there are dozens of skills that fall under the “necessary life skills” heading, following are six that I feel are important for most teenagers
Filling out a job application
The teen years are when many kids are seeking out their first part-time jobs. While the process of filling out a job application can seem pretty straightforward, it doesn’t hurt to practice it and make sure your teen has all the information he needs to fill one out completely and correctly.
It is helpful to make a list of standard information so that your teen has everything he needs – such as the names, addresses, and phone numbers of references – readily available.
The interview process can be nerve-wracking for adults, most of whom have been through the process before, so I can only imagine how intimidating it must be for a teen going through the experience for the first time.
Role-playing can be a great way to practice the skills needed for a successful interview. Discuss with your teen points such as:
- Proper attire – I may be old school, but I don’t care if a teen is interviewing for something as entry-level as the Chick-Fil-A cow, she should dress neatly and professionally. To me, this means dress pants and a nice shirt as the starting point. Hair should be neat and out of the face. Nails should be neat and clean. For girls, if nail polish is worn, it shouldn’t be chipped.
- No gum, breath mints, or candy in the mouth.
- Use a firm handshake and look this interviewer in the eye when being introduced.
- Be on time! On time for an interview means at least 10 minutes early
- Speak clearly.
Be sure to practice the interview questions with your teens. Do you have one that has historically been difficult for you? It may not come up, but practice it with your teen. (I always hate “Tell me about yourself.” Do they want to know about me personally? Do they want to know about me as relates to the job? Ugh!)
There are probably other interview points that I’m forgetting, but those are some good basics.
If your teen has a job, this can be an ideal opportunity for him to learn how to file taxes (or, even before that, how to fill out withholding information). I imagine that the majority of people probably use tax software now, but the paper forms for a simple return aren’t hard to figure out either. Whichever method your teen uses, tax season is a great time to explain the forms and make sure he’s prepared to file his own taxes in a few years.
Leaving a tip
Honestly, teaching your teen how to figure a tip will probably take about two seconds. If your kids are like mine, they’ve already asked about it a few dozen times before then. However, they probably haven’t had much experience in actually remembering to leave a tip.
I’ll never forget the time a bunch of kids from my part-time summer job went to a Pizza Hut after work. It was late, so the employees were probably ready to go home. I don’t remember us being purposely obnoxious, but we were probably noisy. The staff was great, as was the service.
The next day, somebody realized that no one had left a tip!
We hadn’t been purposely rude; we honestly didn’t think of it. So, a few of my co-workers went around and took up money from everyone, then, delivered it to the servers at the restaurant with our apologies.
My mom was a server in a restaurant for many years, so the concept of leaving a good tip was drilled into me. Now, I make sure to remind Brianna to leave a tip when she’s going out with friends…and I’m not above texting to remind her while she’s out.
Preparing meals (cooking and healthy meal planning)
I am so bad about not even thinking about having my kids in the kitchen with me when I cook. I was just thinking a couple of days ago that I should probably never be in the kitchen alone since each of my kids is old enough to handle preparing an entire meal. Brianna has a couple of meals that she prepares on a somewhat regular basis and Josh is a whiz at breakfast foods. Still, I’d like to make sure that at least one of them is planning and preparing a healthy, balanced meal once a week – including vegetables other than potatoes, even if it’s the kid who doesn’t like them.
I’m as guilty as the next person about skimming over Terms of Service and not really reading them thoroughly, however, it’s important to know what you’re agreeing to before you click that button or sign that paper. Teens need to understand this, as well, so use the middle and high school years to make sure that they understand the legalese before they click that button.
It’s also an excellent time to teach them to read the fine print on websites and “contest entries.” You know, like the ones that only want to get your information so they can send you something or the places that want to “help” you do things like break into modeling or market your idea…for a substantial fee. Teens need to understand that most things that sound too good to be true probably are and people really can put things on the internet that aren’t true. Bonjour!
As I said, I’m sure there are dozens of other skills for teens to practice before they leave home. What would you add?