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God’s been working on me a lot lately. Like really a lot. It’s been a lot of little things that have added up to some big changes in my attitude and my outlook on life and my role as a Christ-follower.

Love. Serve. Lead.

Several months ago, our worship leader preached one Sunday morning when our pastor was out. He talked about how to study the Bible. I’ll admit, he didn’t go into as much detail as I’d have liked. There was no 10-step plan that I could neatly write down in my notes.

He said a couple of things, though, the started a chain of events. First, he said:

The Bible wasn’t written to give us little nuggets of wisdom for our day.  It was written to point us to Jesus.

He went on to suggest that,

If you don’t know where to start, start with Jesus. Read the Gospels. If you want to be convicted start with James. If you want the history read Acts.

And somewhere in there, it was suggested to start with the Gospel of John. Since I’d just started using the SOAP method of Bible study with the kids, I decided that John would be a great book for us to read.

Now, I’m here to tell you, I’ve been a Christian since I was 13. I’d hazard to guess that the first Sunday of my life was probably spent in church somewhere. But, Jesus has revealed more of himself to me in these last few months (we’re taking it slowly) reading through and unpacking the book of John with my kids than I can recall ever learning at any other point in my life.

The big thing that God has showed me is what my role in His plan is: Love. Serve. Lead.

That’s it. It’s that simple.


Jesus loved people. He didn’t condemn them. He didn’t judge them. He didn’t tiptoe around their sin, either, but, more than anything, He loved them.

At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there.  Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”

“No one, sir,” she said.

“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” – John  8:9-11

“I have no husband,” she replied.

Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” – John 4:17-18

If anyone hears my words but does not keep them, I do not judge that person. For I did not come to judge the world, but to save the world. – John 12:47

If I’m following the example of Christ, my job, first and foremost, is to love. Everybody. Period.


Jesus served. Not only did he serve, but he pointed out that he did so as an example for us to follow.

When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them. “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet.

I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them. – John 13:12-17

Jesus expects me to follow his example and serve his people. (Hint: “His people” aren’t just those who call themselves Christians.)


Okay, this last thing wasn’t something I noticed Jesus doing, but it was something that his disciples did and I believe it’s something he expects of me as a Christ-follower.

Jesus’ disciples led people to him. I’m not talking about the “Christianese” word “lead” which would imply that I’m evangelizing and leading converts in a prayer of salvation. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but, if we’re not careful, that can start tiptoeing into some very dangerous territory in which accusations of “pushing religion” on people might start getting thrown around.

No, the kind of leading I’m thinking of looks a lot like introducing people to the Jesus I love and serve, like several of the disciples did in the early part of John and like the woman at the well did later on in the same book.

Andrew, Simon Peter’s brother, was one of the two who heard what John had said and who had followed Jesus. The first thing Andrew did was to find his brother Simon and tell him, “We have found the Messiah” (that is, the Christ). And he brought him to Jesus. – John 1:40-42

Philip found Nathanael and told him, “We have found the one Moses wrote about in the Law, and about whom the prophets also wrote—Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.”

“Nazareth! Can anything good come from there?” Nathanael asked.

“Come and see,” said Philip. – John 1:45-46

Then, leaving her water jar, the woman went back to the town and said to the people, “Come, see a man who told me everything I ever did. Could this be the Messiah?”

They came out of the town and made their way toward him. – John 4:28-30

I think God expects me to introduce people to Jesus. Where the relationship goes from that point should be between the person and Him. I don’t think that means that I shouldn’t be ready to answer questions or support and encourage the growth of the relationship, but I can’t force it either.

That’s what God has been showing me that he expects of me: Love. Serve. Lead. I had the bracelet in the top photo made a couple of weeks ago, so that I can wear it as a reminder.

I wear it with the words pointed in, toward me, because they’re for me to read. They’re my reminder of how I should interact with those with whom I come into contact. If I can remember my role, I can stay out of the way of God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit as each performs his role.

I can remember what my role is and what it is not and, hopefully, avoid driving people away from the very One I’m supposed to be pointing them toward.

What has God been showing you lately?

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Kris Bales is a newly-retired homeschool mom and the quirky, Christ-following, painfully honest founder (and former owner) of Weird, Unsocialized Homeschoolers. She has a pretty serious addiction to sweet tea and Words with Friends. Kris and her husband of over 30 years are parents to three amazing homeschool grads. They share their home with three dogs, two cats, a ball python, a bearded dragon, and seven birds.

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  1. Loved this post!

    Over the summer I felt God pulling me towards service & leadership within the children’s program at our church, which was something I had always resisted because it would just take too much time. I finally jumped in with both feet and it has been absolutely amazing! Teaching the Bible to the kids has made it truly come alive for me, and now I can see this is exactly where I need to be.

    I’m inspired to take a closer look at the book of John now after reading this post. Thanks for the insight! 🙂

  2. A number of months ago I came across your site and simply out of impulse subscribed. I am so grateful for what this specific impulse has brought to my in-box each day. Thank you for sharing what you do and specifically for this post. I am so grateful for the reminder and support it holds in my relationship with Christ.

    Hope you’re enjoying this most beautiful morning.

    1. You don’t know how much your comment has blessed me today. I prayed over this post last night, wondering if I was jumping ahead of God in publishing it. I felt a peace about going ahead. I’m so glad to know that it was something you needed to hear today. Thank you.

  3. What a terrific post, thank you so much for your insight and wisdom. I too certainly feel God is calling me to Love, Serve, Lead!

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