We don’t really do much for Valentine’s Day around here. I think that’s probably mostly due to poor planning on my part…or the fact that it’s just one more over-commercialized holiday.
That being said, I always remember my mom having a card and a heart-shaped box of candy on the table for us on Valentine’s morning, so I do try to do something like that for the kids. Sometimes I get a bit more elaborate. That’s very rare, though. We used to do a homeschool Valentine’s Day party, but as the kids have gotten older, exchanging little paper cards with their friends has lost its appeal.
I still think there are some simple things we moms can do do make Valentine’s Day special for our teens.
1. Make a special breakfast.
The chocolate crepes I made that one year were a big hit – and looked so Valentine-y. Chocolate chip pancakes are a good option, too. I’m pretty sure I could even get away with store-bought cinnamon rolls because we hardly ever have them. I don’t think the meal has to be elaborate to be special – just something that your kids like, but don’t get very often.
2. Give them a homemade coupon book.
Although we don’t think about it often, homemade coupons have been very popular in our house in the past. For a teen, coupons could include:
- Breakfast date with mom or dad
- Skip a chore
- Take a day (or an afternoon) off school
- Choose the family movie
- Get the meal of your choice
- Choose a game to play with mom or dad
- Get a ride to the mall for you and a friend
What would y’all add?
3. Leave them love notes.
They may act all grown and independent, but teens still need to hear – often – that they’re loved. Leave them notes to let them know how much you love them. Hide the notes in:
- Books they’re reading
- Video game cases
- Dresser drawers
- Pockets of their favorite jeans
4. Prepare dinner as a family.
In full disclosure, I have to say that this one is just a suggestion. I’ll have a hard time actually executing it because our kitchen is small and it’s easier to just do things on my own. That being said, easier isn’t always better. Preparing dinner as a family could be a great way to enjoy one another’s company.
If I do this, I will keep it simple. The meal will probably involve a salad that a couple of people could work on together and a simple bread (crescent rolls are always a hit around here). Oh, maybe a meal like stuffed shells, which Brianna makes very well. Hmmm…maybe I’ll take my own suggestion after all.
5. Spend time with them.
Sometimes we think of Valentine’s Day as a day of romance with our spouses. That’s not bad, but until our kids have their own spouses, I want to be their “significant other.” That means I want to make sure to spend time with them on Valentine’s Day, too. A couple of weeks ago, I shared some ideas for how to spend one-on-one time with teenagers, but most of those ideas could make great family activities, too.
6. Get them a card and a little box of candy.
That little “card and a box of candy” thing? Yeah, I still remember that. It’s simple touch that can build lasting memories. Sometimes, I skip the heart-shaped box of candy and just get their favorite kind of candy with a card. It doesn’t have to be expensive or complicated. Just do something to let your kids know you’re thinking of them and you love them.
Do you have any special Valentine’s traditions with your teens (or kids in general if you don’t have teens yet)?