About once a month or so, I spend time browsing through my Google Analytics keywords to see which search terms people used to find my site. Doing so can be an excellent source of writing inspiration as there are often search terms or questions that make a great blog post. Sometimes there are really comical search terms that beg to have a blog post written about them.
Then there are those that could go either way – funny or serious. This is one of those. Or maybe it’s just because I’m weird that both funny and serious answers popped into my head when I read the question: How do you make a homeschool mom like you?
Ten Ways to Make Friends with a Homeschool Mom
1. Bring her a gallon of Chick-fil-A sweet tea.
It’s probably telling that this is my number 1 answer. Oh, well. It’s true. My sister brought me a gallon of Chick-fil-A tea as a thank you for watching my nieces once. I talked about it for weeks. I mean, y’all, my very own gallon of CFA tea that I didn’t have to share with anyone. If that’s not enough to give a person warm fuzzies, I don’t know what is.
That could just be me. It could have the same effect on other sweet-tea-lovin’ moms who don’t homeschool, but if you’re trying to befriend a homeschooling mom, it’s worth a shot. If she’s not impressed, just send the tea to me.
2. Bring her chocolate.
Chocolate may be a bit more universal among moms than sweet tea, so go ahead and give it a try for your friend-making overtures.
3. Make dinner for her.
I’m not even joking about this one. A busy homeschool mom may just burst into happy tears if you supply a hot, home-cooked meal cooked by someone other than her.
You know what? Maybe you should skip this one. It may be too much if you’re only trying to get her to like you. A proclamation of undying gratitude on her front porch may be awkward.
4. Compliment her children.
Don’t quiz them on math facts or spelling words. Don’t watch them suspiciously, as if you’re waiting for them to do something weird and unsocialized. Just give her kids a sincere compliment. What mom – homeschooling or otherwise – wouldn’t appreciate that?
5. Tell her she’s doing a good job.
Let me tell you a little secret about homeschooling moms: sometimes we doubt ourselves. It’s insanely encouraging when someone notices what we’re doing well and comments on it. Go ahead. Give it a try.
6. Invite her over for coffee.
She’ll enjoy getting out of the house for a few minutes of quiet, adult conversation. You may even be able to skip the talking and just let her enjoy the quiet. Of course, if her kids are young, you may have to take the coffee to her, in which case neither of you may get to enjoy the quiet, but the adult conversation will be appreciated.
7. Give her an Amazon gift card.
Yeah, seriously. She’ll love you.
8. Invite her kids over for a playdate.
If your kids and hers are near the same ages and you know the family well enough, invite the kids over for a playdate. Your homeschool mom would-be friend will enjoy having the house to herself for a little while or the chance to run some errands alone.
9. Respect her choices.
Because they’re just that – her choices. They’re not a commentary on yours. She didn’t make them lightly, and they’re not up for debate. You may not choose to homeschool, and that’s okay. She doesn’t expect you to. The two of you can make different choices for your families and still be friends. Really.
10. Respect her time.
She’s not sitting at her house watching soap operas and eating bonbons. No, she’s busy educating her kids who probably represent a variety of age and ability levels. She’s keeping house, grading papers, running errands, playing taxi service, preparing meals, and a dozen other responsibilities. She’d probably love to hang out with you, but when she says she’s busy, she really is busy.
Don’t take it personally when she turns down invitations. Respect the fact that she may not be able to get away – but maybe, every once in awhile, remind her that it would be good for her to take a little time for herself because sometimes we forget.
In all seriousness, homeschooling moms are just like anyone else. If you want to make a homeschooling mom like you, remember that old saying: To have a friend, be a friend.
Now, let’s have some fun. Homeschooling moms, what’s one not-so-serious way someone could make you like them?
Kris Bales is a newly-retired homeschool mom and the quirky, Christ-following, painfully honest founder (and former owner) of Weird, Unsocialized Homeschoolers. She has a pretty serious addiction to sweet tea and Words with Friends. Kris and her husband of over 30 years are parents to three amazing homeschool grads. They share their home with three dogs, two cats, a ball python, a bearded dragon, and seven birds.